I Am Wrong, You Are Right

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Instead of finding faults and overlooking the merits of others, let us live and let live to contribute to be a better world.

At times of deadly conflicts, tranquillity is much desired. But during peacetime, human beings remain quarrelsome. Arguments could be with anyone, including family members or relatives, colleagues or competitors, friends or foes, and even imaginary or fictitious characters online.

Most common are petty quarrels among family members with one side insisting on being right and the other party wrong. Although it may feel good to be right, it is better to be effective. But few people have learned and adopted this maxim for a more harmonious and productive life.

Sadly, petty quarrels can continue over decades among family members that could have been stopped at its track if only one side were to declare “I am wrong, you are right”. This could make the other side left with nothing to say and perhaps end the argument.

Most contentions could end when one side issues an apology, but most people lack the courage. To begin with, people who always want to be right are those lacking self-confidence. Quarrels have more to do with persons involved than the differences, made worse by amplifying issues.

If we wish others to respect our views, we must also do the same for others. There will be times when it is better to agree to disagree on some issues while agreeing with the rest. We should leave our minds open and make a reversal if need be, especially when circumstances change.

Instead of trying to win an argument, it is better to say nothing especially when the other party is in the wrong. He may realise later and appreciate you for not making him lose face. Normally, the party in the wrong is doubly angry for two reasons, at the other person and himself.

So, if you think you are right, act confident and be happy with yourself and give the other party time to cool down and discover the truth. But if you prefer to engage and torment, then you choose to be bad and that would be worse than the person that have done wrong by mistake.

In any case, how we react in a situation is more of a reflection of ourselves than the action of others. Always wanting to win or playing a blame game are signs of immaturity easily noticeable by others. On the other hand, it takes a person with a big heart to be magnanimous.

Although we may share our views, we cannot expect others to agree as all of us are different and unique in our own ways. As long as we do not pretend to be someone else or be hypocritical, we would be acceptable by most people. Those who do not may have their own problems.

So, instead of finding faults and overlooking the merits of others, let us live and let live to contribute to be a better world. If not, even the most powerful leader on earth would be rendered ineffective for just wanting to be right instead of being good.

The views expressed here are strictly those of The True Net reader YS Chan of Petaling Jaya.